Friday, December 26, 2014

Lessons My Father Taught Me

One day this past Fall I dreamed of my father. It was a very real dream and lingered long into the day.

I was in high school and it was winter. One of my parents would always rise at 4:00 am to start their work day. This particular morning was dark and very early. A heavy snow had fallen during the night. My dad woke me to tell me to get dressed. I had a job shoveling the Regina Maria Retreat House property.

I got dressed—warm clothes, boots, hats and gloves. I was not pampered. Neither parent would have expected anything less of me that to get up long before daybreak, dress, shovel the city block then go to school.

I walked the 15 minutes to the house—trudging through unshoveled snow very deep snow. I let myself in, choked the snow blower, got it out and began the slow task of ploughing out their long drive, then four very long sidewalks.

The Retreat House occupied a full city block. The nuns paid be $1.50 an hour to work for them.

Maybe I finished. Maybe the nuns fed me some breakfast. That I don't remember. What I do remember is heading to school—Mount Assumption Institute--which was across the street.

I do not remember the school day, but I do remember returning to the Retreat House to finish the job after classes ended—four sidewalks, a huge driveway and several smaller walk ways.

That was my dream. It was as I had relived the entire day. I could feel the wet snow. I could see my father and I could hear him.

And then I woke up.

I was very far from home, very far from MAI, and very far from all that was familiar from those years long, long ago.

And I was sad, and the sadness stayed with me all day long. I found myself mourning my parents once again,found myself missing them, found myself feeling lonely and alone.

I was in Mexico City on the morning of that dream and happened to be heading to CAFEMIN. I shared the dream with my friend Sister Mirian who's always been my CAFEMIN contact and who, over all these months, has become my friend.

“A dream like that, Dan, when you see loved ones who died, means you know they're OK.”

I thought that rather different coming from a Catholic nun, but I wasn't surprised that she'd given me this information. I've felt all along that they are OK, and that has always made their passing a bit easier.

We parted, and then I cried, and then I was OK. The sadness lifted. It was just one of those temporary blips in life that remind us of our humanness.

The whole dream got me thinking of the things my father taught me and the things that have stayed with me all my life.
My father taught me to obey him, but rarely in a mean way. How many overly-enabled children today would get up at 4:00 am, not question the early rising, shovel an entire city block, go to school then finish the job? There are those who do, of course, but I imagine more would refuse the task.

And thinking of that dark winter morning, I thought of how my father reacted to weather. When he was in World War 2 he was fortunate to live in Honolulu. That forever altered the way he viewed the North Country. Somehow he convinced my mother to move the family to Florida. No more winter's for him!

Unfortunately, my mother was unable to tolerate the brutal Florida summers and within two years they moved back to New York.

Did he he miss those warm days, those snowless winters, that “forever summer” life he'd come to love? I don't know because I never thought to ask him and he never complained about being back in the north. I think he was like most men of his generation. They'd been to war, they saw things no human should have to see, they survived, came home, married and jumpstarted their old life. Somehow they compartmentalized the past and simply moved forward.

Later in life, as a young teacher, something happened to my car. I didn't have a lot of money, but my dad reminded me that I had a job and that the money I earned would pay for the repairs. “Be grateful,” he told me, “that you have a job to pay for these things.”

“Be grateful....” I can not tell you how many times in my life I have used that counsel when life has thrown me a financial curveball—times I needed a new roof, or a major car repair or whatever. I always had a job that would pay for those things, even if it took a year to do so.

What a valuable lesson!

There is much I learned from my dad—things both big and small. Things like learning to swim or ride a bike or hit a baseball. He taught me to ski and bowl. He taught me that, no matter whether I needed to or not, when I had access to a bathroom I should always use it. Oh, yes...thanks, Dad! I have never forgotten that lesson and it's come in handy hundreds of times.

For the most part my dad was a kind, quiet, non-judgmental man and I wish, so wish, I'd had him longer in my life. I'm grateful I did have him until I was 45 and that he had a full life until the very end.

I'm grateful he did get back to Florida in his later years.

And I am most grateful for what he taught me about dying. I never once heard my dad complain about his cancer or his fatigue or the fact that he knew he was dying. He simply accepted it for what it was.

Dad died twenty years ago today. Can it be that long? My skin has regenerated itself three times since then. Life truly does move on.

Never a Christmas passes when I don't pause and think of that year. Something will always trigger a memory. There was a time when it was painful, but now I think of the precious gifts of friends who came forth that year, and especially of the two “angels in denim” who stayed with us through the entire time. And I always give thanks for that quiet time on that Christmas afternoon when Dad was lucid. “I love you,” I told him.

“And I love you.”

It was great to see him again, even if it was in a dream. If time could be reversed, and I had to opportunity to be awakened again by my dad to shovel out the Retreat House, I'd gladly do it. We never know how precious a moment can be until it's long passed.

Saturday, November 22, 2014

Iberia and Beyond 2: In the End. In the Very, Very End.

Plattsburgh, NY
November 27, 2014
Latitude 44.6953° N,
In the end, I traveled for sixty-two days visiting five countries/territories—Portugal, Spain, St. Maarten, Saint Thomas and Mexico.

In the end I would linger over the memory of sun-drenched days in central Portugal and the dry, golden plains of Andalusia and the long, lazy, sea-blue days of a trans-Atlantic cruise.

In the end, Portugal's cobbled, medina-like streets of Alcobaca, Tomar and Bathala would remain the very best part of of the trip.

In the end, the Norwegian Epic sailed 4, 685 nautical miles from Barcelona to Miami at a mere 16 nautical miles per hour. This languid days crossing the Atlantic, coupled with unending vistas of sea, sky and horizon were an extraordinary way to relax after five weeks of walking 10-15 miles a day on Iberian streets.

In the end,I've come to realize that, as much as I'd like to, it's just not possible any more to travel for extended periods of time. Maybe it's retirement, maybe it's because I can travel any time of the year that I want. Whatever. It just means a small change in how I travel. It doesn't mean the end of travel.

In the end, Mexico was overkill. It was nice to see everyone and it was wonderful to spend six days at my favorite beach, but it just wasn't necessary.

In the end, cruises are great, but for no longer than two weeks and probably no more than two a year. There is such a thing as too much of a good thing. Having said that, I can see a day when I'm no longer physically able to travel as I used to, and the cruise will be the only alternative. I hate to see that day coming, but it will.

In the end, I know I'm running out of time. So many places, age creeping up. Have to make the most of what time I've got left.


In the end, it was great, and I was happy to return home to the land of ice and snow, Thanksgiving, and the arms of loved ones.

Iberia and Beyond 2: Zipolite, Mexico

Zipolite, Oaxaca, Mexico
November 12, 2014
Latitude15.6621° N
I know, and I have known, for a long time why I'm attracted to Zipolite.  It brings me back to the origins of my travels in the 1970's when residents of Greek islands rented out rooms in their cum beach towns had strings of wooden cabins running to the South China Sea, where monkeys were my neighbors and snakes hung from nearby trees.  It brings me back to Thai islands in the early 1990's when there was still huge parcels of empty land, where cows still grazed and where people lived in small villages.  In Mexico, it brings me back to the days, not that long ago, when Playa del Carmen 's Fifth Avenue--Avenida Quinta--still was a dirt road and where a thirty minute's walk north of the main beach brought you to the end of town, to wild Caribbean beaches butting up against the Mayan jungle, where palm trees grew close to the sea and where you could actually spend a day almost alone.

homes to tourists or into stables that had been cleaned and converted to guest quarters. It brings me back to the East Coast of Malaysia in the 1980's when fishing villages

Zipolite brings me back to the days before global tourism took over a place and converted those lovely beach shacks into expensive, chic boutique hotels, before tourism went amok, before the days when the whole world seems to be traveling at the same time, to the same cool places, before the days when you have to wait in line for your turn to take a photo or battle the hordes of Tokyo as they plow through a tourist destination.

Zipolite brings me back to the "hippie" days of travel when things were just a whole lot quieter, back to the days, almost forty years ago, when travel what done by far fewer people.

Zipolite is the wild west, that lawless corner of Mexico where just about anything goes.  You get a clue to this when you get into a taxi from the airport.  The driver will always ask you where you're going then may offer  to sell you ganja--marijuana.  Yeah, right.  It's a very good thing to stay on the good side of the law, whatever that is, in this place.

Warm blue days leads to warm clear nights.  The surf never stops pulsing--earth's rhythm in sync with the land around it.

I was in Zipolite to wrap up a two month trip, a trip that could be split into three chapters--Europe, the cruise and now Mexico.

After seeing Glenda off in Miami, I flew on to Mexico City.  For a week I happily visited friends, scoped out possibilities for the winter of 2015 and enjoyed the buzz the city offers.  But I'd also planned a more restrained end-of-trip--a week in my favorite Mexican beach town--Zipolite.

I love the Pacific side of Mexico, its wild coastline, water that's warm year round.  I love the dramatic backdrop of Sierra Madres that rise high above the coastline and crawl down the spine of Mexico. But mostly, as in the case of Zipolite, I love the sense of isolation this part of the coast provides.  It's just a hard  place to get to.  Eighteen hours by bus from Mexico City via Acapulco; twelve hours by bus via Oaxaca or a short 55 minutes by air from the capital.

Zipolite isn't much more than a three-street town, population 931.  Double that in winter when Americans and Canadians pour in.  It doesn't have a street light and I've never seen a cop.  Hotels have no TV, no air conditioning.  There's no bank and no grocery store.  Just last year an ATM machine was installed, but half the time it doesn't work.  There are maybe ten restaurants, a smattering of bars and three small tiendas.  It's so far south that it's always hot.

Just this year did the three streets get paved.  At each end of the street that runs alone the sea are a stretch of homes where locals live.  The streets are dirt and scrub palms, almond trees and bananas grow willy-nilly in sandy back yards.  Smaller hostels dot that landscape, dorm rooms for less than 100 pesos a night. Sometimes, instead of walking on the beach to Playa del Amor, my favorite place to spend the day, I'll stroll through these "neighborhoods." Laundry is always hanging on lines, children and dogs are always around.  Roosters crow.  There always seems to be a small bonfire somewhere.  It's always hot and usually very still in these parts of Zipolite.  Sometimes, on the hottest days, the rotting smell of decaying vegetation fill the air.

I love these walks.

Zipolite is Mexico's only true nudist beach.  Just about anything goes, but, as I've said earlier, it's always best to stay on the clean side of the law.

At this time of the year--mid-November--it only feels marginally  different from mid-July when it's a bit more humid, not that humidity is the issue it is on the other coast, the Caribbean side when it always feel sticky.  Only the arc of the sun is different.

By mid day of this marvelous week I'm always nauseous from sitting in the sun.  I have to seek out shade.  Almost no one sits in the sun, so the shady areas are always packed with people.

The Pacific fizzes green and blue.  There is no moon during this visit so the sea is somewhat calm. At other times, when the moon is waxing, the surf crashes on shore and is actually dangerous.  I never plan a visit during the full moon.  For three days, it's far to dangerous to enter the water beyond your knees.

There isn't much to do in Zipolite, all of which is fine with me.  Of course, I only come in the off-season, and off-off- season is even better.  This is the off season, before Christmas when town, as it does during Semana Santa, explodes with revelry.  Off-season is always, always better and off-off even better.

When I do choose to leave Zipolite, I wait on the side of the road for a ride in a shared taxi or in a camioneta--a large pick-up truck with a roof a seats on each side of the bed.  The truck will stop, give me time to crawl into the back where, if I'm lucky, I find a seat.  Otherwise I stand.

On a typical morning I can share space with a farmer transporting bags of corn, corn that's spilled over the floor of the truck.  WE have to dodge the ears to get to our seat.  There are always mothers on board with children.  Sometimes there are small cages with chickens in them.  If there was ever an accident we'd all be dead.

I love this about life in Zipolite, too.

In fact, I just love this place period.  There's a controlled lawlessness about the place and it's a perfect place to spend a week or two.  Beyond that I'm not sure.  I think life would be a great challenge.  There's the beach and the dazzling blue sky, the wild pounding surf and fine grained sand and a sky full of stars.

But that's about it.  I'm afraid I would lose my soul in a place like this.  Odysseus almost did when he met Circe.  I took him a year to leave the place and move on, but at least he got away.

There are no seasons, really, to demarcate time.  There's only the wet and the dry.  I think life would become monotonous and boring.  The town is to transient to sustain long-term friendships.  I think I would always be an outsider.

It's great for a week, though.  It's great for long, lazy days of doing nothing, of eating fresh fruit salad every mornings and freshly caught seafood at night. It's great to let the surf and sun ease away any tensions that have crept into busy lives.

I"m glad have no further allusions about the place.

On the last night I was there I sat on the sand at Playa del Amor waiting for sunset.  The bar above beach was playing a soft piano/saxophone jazz.  It was low tide and waves quietly lapped the shore.  There were only a few rogue clouds  hugged the horizon.  The sun, a fiery hot orange, slid through the cloud bank and slipped into the sea.  It was quite the splash.

A day later I flew back to Mexico City and a day later still home to New York, to Thanksgiving and to the land of early ice and snow.

Zipolite had been a remarkable last chapter to a remarkable sixty-one days away, but I was not sorry to see it end.

It would be good to be home.


Thursday, October 23, 2014

Iberia and Beyond 2: The Transatlantic Crossing--14 Days on the Norwegian Epic from Barcelona to Miami

Day 1-- October 26th
Barcelona
41° 27' N

I was not sorry to be leaving Barcelona. I was tired from a month of aggressive traveling and Barcelona...well... There were just too many people. Perhaps it was because it was the weekend or the fact that almost 10,000 people were in town simply to board one of the transatlantic cruise ships that would be leaving this day. Whatever the case, it was just too, too crowded and I was unable to make a connection to the city. Or maybe I was just jaded from having seen so much in the past month. I was ready to set sail.

By 1:00 pm Glenda and I were on board the SS Norwegian Epic. Four cruise chips were lined up at the port—three of which would arrive somewhere in Florida two weeks later. It's the time of year for ships that have plied European waters to head back to the Caribbean. Price drop, ships fill up, and, I dare say, the majority of us are simply out for the ride.

At 5:27 pm were were on deck. With a long blast from the ship's horn we pulled out of our berth and headed west. Shortly, the breeze freshened against our faces; hovering gulls swooped by as I flung kernels of popcorn overboard. I felt that particular tingle I always feel as I depart for uncertain territory.

For more than two hours the Epic paralleled Barcelona—first the city and then its suburbs and then the smaller towns that extended west. Because it was late on a warm Sunday afternoon, the waters all around us were thick with sailboats.

Shortly the sun set, but the horizon glowed pink and orange and the air had a soft chill to it. I was sitting on our balcony when I looked up and saw, in the eastern sky, a rising crescent of a cool silvered moon. The night was clear and a cool wind blew on my shoulders. All good omens, I thought.

We were on our way!

Day 2 – October 27th
Western Mediterranean
37° 50' N

By morning of our first full day we were firmly in the Western Mediterranean. The day was clear and a warm hazy sun and lack of wind made for a fine day at sea. For hours tankers passed us on both sides. Were we in some sort of middle passage, reserved only for ocean liners? I didn't know.

At times, the Spanish mainland was visible from our starboard cabin. I never did see Africa off Port. We passed the Balearic Islands of Ibiza and Mallorca and by early evening the land narrowed. Spain and Morocco were a short few miles apart. We'd arrived in the Straits of Gibraltar.

It was dark, but Gibraltar—the Rock—was clearly visible. Like some black shadow, it rose out of the sea. Ten miles away the lights of Tangiers twinkled. Africa/Europe—so close but so very, very far apart.

I'd been in these waters before, but under very different circumstances. In the summer of 1983 I was 33 and traveling through Portugal and Spain before setting sail from Algeciras, Spain heading to Tangiers.

There are many parts of that trip that are lost to memory . Indeed, Lisbon, Faro, Madrid and Barcelona were essentially new cities, even though I'd been to them all before. (I am grateful to my journal from that time to flesh out what I really did on that trip.)

But Morocco was not lost to memory. Perhaps because it was the first time I”d travelled to a locale deemed “exotic,” my memories of Morocco are still clear.

On the boat that day I left Southern Spain I met a young German couple. We became pen pals for awhile, long before the advent of email. It was they who introduced me to a recipe I still use—Norwegian Apple Cake, a cake that has sweetened many a Sunday autumn afternoon.

Somewhere on that short voyage between Europe and Africa I also met two recently graduated students from Long Island who'd majored in business. One of them wanted to work at the New York Stock Exchange.

“I'll be dead by 40,” I remember him telling me.

I do hope that's not the case, and that some common sense took over during the past thirty years. I hope he's alive and 50 and that somehow during the past 32 years he had an epiphany that stress can kill and that the Stock Exchange may not be the best place for him.

Such is youth that 40 is old!

The three of us bunked in together for our time in Tangiers. As is always the case with young travelers, there is an easy fluidity that enables them to connect and disconnect easily.

A few days later we did split. I traveled south to a series of Moroccan cities, connected then reconnected. I still remember the sights and sounds and the full beautiful sensual assault that North Africa afforded. I would like to have gone further south but my time in Europe was coming to an end. From Marrakesh I flew back to Tangiers, crossed the Straits again and caught a train to Madrid and flew home.

Almost all aspects of the European part of that trip are fuzzy, but not the passage past Gibraltar into Morocco and the journey south. I think it's been so well remembered because it was just so much different from anything I'd experienced prior.

There are still echoes of that world I lived in. I silently spoke to the specter of that young man crossing the Straight on a summer's afternoon so long ago.

“You'll have a wonderful life. You'll know love and deep friendships, a good career. You don't know that yet, but you will.”

“There'll be bumps, of course, and great sadnesses but still, in the end, it's going to be great.”

So all of these pleasant memories swirled around me that early evening as we passed the Straits of Gibraltar. I could still see the excited young man making that crossing more than half a lifetime ago.

I stood high on the deck of the Epic, camera ready. The “Rock” was nothing but a silhouette against a blue-black night. Electric lights girded the base of Gibraltar and stretched out along the Spanish and Moroccan sides.

“Goodbye young man,” I said to the young man who was now entering his Golden years. “The second half of your life is going to be extraordinary. Trust me!”

For a moment I felt enclosed in the amber of long ago, but by Odyssic nature took over and craned to see what lay ahead. I will always be a traveler, I thought. And that's not a bad thing to be.

Day 4 – October 29th
Madeira, Portugal
Latitude 32° 38' N

Ready to welcome the day?” Glenda said early on the morning of October 29th? She was about to open the draperies and let in Madeira sunshine.

And sun it was! After two cloudy days at sea it was good to know we'd enjoy a day on the island in full sun.

We were just off the coast of the island, 1,132 nautical miles from Barcelona. At first view, the island had an Aegean quality to it—white houses with terracotta roofs. Terraced gardens crept up hillsides. It was a good first impression.

Once off the boat we boarded the island's Hop-On bus which led to a huge disappointment in the end. All it did was skirt through Funchal, the island's principal city, rise a bit out of it to a high point which gave us ocean vistas. We circled once, and got off at the entrance to the cable car, slapped down 30 Euros and rode the teleferico to the island's tropical gardens a couple of thousand feet above sea level.

This wasn't a disappointment. Acres of tropical plants and flowers indigenous to this climate filled multiple gardens—all terraced downwards toward to sea. The views were spectacular. From this aerie we could see the Norwegian Epic—huge in comparison to the other cruise ships berthed nearby.

Once down in town again, I wandered the cobbled streets, reminding myself how nice it was to be back in Portugal. I checked email, stocked up on Coke and wended myself back to the boat with just enough time to spare before I'd miss it. This was no time to be left behind. From Madeira we'd be six days at sea.

As much as I enjoyed the island, it reminded me once again of how limiting cruises can be. There was so much more to see and do and eight hours was simply not enough time. But I'd resigned myself to this earlier. A transatlantic cruise really is about places. Instead it's all about the ride and the people one meets. And from this moment on it was all about the next six days when we'd be at sea. It was 2,642 nautical miles to St. Maarten and the best was yet to come.

Day 5 – October 30th
Off the Coast of Madeira
Latitude 32° 38' N

I awoke early. Glenda was still sleeping so I quietly left the stateroom and made my way to Deck 15 where I could read, grab a Danish and orange juice and let her sleep in a bit longer.

When I got off the elevator I was met by a great noise—a deafening whoop-whoop-whoop. Imagine my surprise, then, when I got on deck to see a military helicopter hovering above, its great blades announcing that something was very wrong.

It was well before 7:00 am, but more than 50 people were on deck. What was even more curious was that the island of Madeira, which we'd left more than 12 hours earlier, was clearly visible off port side.

I ran back to the room, grabbed my camera, told a startled Glenda about the unfolding drama then got back upstairs. Even in this short period of time numbers had increased. Who could sleep through all this noise?

I began to pray—almost urgently. What else could anyone do? This had to be a grave situation for the Epic to reverse course and call in an emergency helicopter. Someone, I thought, had to be seriously ill.

Fifteen minutes later a large team of EMT's raced by below us, all accompanying a woman on a stretcher, breathing through a tube. They whisked her up an elevator and almost immediately emerged under the aircraft. A long rope from the helicopter was attached to the stretcher. A moment later she was securely on board. Another rope dropped then lifted the woman's companion. Safely aboard, one of the crew signaled a long wave to the crowd. People aboard the Epic waved and cheered and shouted well wishes.

By 7:00 am the drama aboard the ship was over. The helicopter sped off towards Madeira, the boat slowly turned around and we headed west once again.

But it really wasn't over. During breakfast we wondered how the woman was faring. And who would pick up the tab for all this? Medical evacuation side, would this woman be slapped with an NCL fuel surcharge? Just how much extra fuel did it take to alter course? We were both glad that we'd picked up good travel insurance.

All day I continued to pray. “Be with her God.” What else could any of us do?

Day 8 – November 2nd
Mid-Voyage
Latitude 26° 13' N

We'd been aboard a week. If I'd not looked a calendar I'd have had no idea what day of the week it was. It could be Friday. It could be July. It could be winter somewhere else. We could be sailing on the Pacific or in the Indian Ocean. Here it's always summer.

Days were easing by like wind down my throat. Each day was a stumbling succession of sky, sea and sky joined together in a dancing stream of blue. The few clouds there were scudded by against a soft blue sky.

There were no landmarks that allowed us to take stock of our progress. Hour after hour, day after day, the Epic slowly pushed towards North America through gentle waves on an empty sea.

The days were a seemingly endless stretch of cloudless blue-white. It never rained. There was no air traffic above us. Somewhere in front of us or behind us were the two ships that set sail the same day from Barcelona, but we never saw them.

Three days earlier I'd seen a freighter far off starboard—the only other sign of humans since we'd left Madeira. Despite the Epic feeling like the streets of Calcutta as 4,000 passengers and 2,000 crew filled its halls, we really were alone—and quite vulnerable—in the middle passage of the Atlantic.

These were the best days of the transatlantic crossing, a voyage the majority of us take just for the experience of it. There was something quite wonderful about saying “I'm in the middle of the ocean.” Hour after hour it was nothing but the deep blue sea and a wide open sapphire blue sky.

It was a splendid feeling!

Day 10 – November 4th
Mid Atlantic
21° 10' N

We'd had six time changes in the past ten days. Each has been no more than an hour. Twice we've “rolled back” two nights in a row. All of this has made for some disruptive sleeping patterns.

Today I'm up at 5:40 am but have been awake long before that. I'm not the only person who's been sleeping badly. It's a buzz I've all over the ship.

I slip out of the room, head upstairs to the pool deck. I”m not alone. There are heaps of other early risers. NCL accommodates us with coffee and donuts. Even at this early hour, there are folks staking out their deck chairs for the day.

It's already warm. We've been steadily traveling southwest, towards warmer waters and a stronger sun. More than once I've seen flying fish while sitting on the balcony—always a sign of warmer climes.

According to the Navigation Channel we will travel 4,800 miles between Barcelona and Miami. At 16 miles an hour, that's 384 miles a day. This is our 6th day at sea, and save for a detour on day two for the sick passenger, we've slowly made our way from Madeira to the Eastern Atlantic.

Even the fish swim faster than we're sailing,” Glenda commented to me over breakfast. I chuckle.

I just love this life at 16 miles an hour.

I head to the gym. These are one of those places on board where I feel as if I'm stuck on a busy street at rush hour in a large Indian city. It's good sized, but there are 4,000 guests on board. Even at 7:30 am every treadmill is in use. There's no such thing as circuit training. When you get a machine you just sit there and finish your sets, otherwise another person will jump right in.

But I do manage two workouts a day—one in the morning and one later in the afternoon. My lifestyle aboard this ship, aside from too many food choices, is actually quite good. When I'm done I soak in the spa's massive hot tub. This is exclusive property. It's very luxurious, and well positioned at the back of the boat with phenomenal sea views. There are multiple saunas and steam rooms. I've paid $200.00 extra for this privilege and fully intend to get my money's worth.

By 10:30 I'm ready for the serious part of the day—doing nothing except lying on a lounge chair under the hot sun. Early on in the cruise I'd been clued in to the “adults only” sunbathing area high on Deck 19—securely protected by high walls and a windy staircase.

Adults only.” Read nude sunbathing. No tan-line-time-in-the-sun. Almost everyone there is crazy, but in a fun sort of way. No one wears clothes. Manolito, a bar steward who's obviously comfortable with nudity, pops up often. A core group of these folk drink way too much, from way too early in the day.

I have a lecture series I'm listening to, bu it's virtually impossible to pay attention because there's almost non-stop banter among these people. I finally give up trying to listen and just enjoy their company, the warm sun. Instead, I read, engage in conversation, toss ice cubes during one of the at-least-once-a-day ice cube wars.

No one here is under 35. Indeed, there aren't many people generally on this cruise under 35. This whole Deck 18 crowd is well educated, many retired, who have the funds and time to take a TA—a transatlantic cruise as I've come to learn the jargon. There's a doctor, several nurses, a lawyer, a retired postal worker as well as a retired Navy officer.

There's a core group of ten of these folks who do the TA on the Epic twice a year. Miami—Barcelona in April; Barcelona—Miami in October. Tough life! There's another 100 or so who do them at least once a year or year and a half. There's an organized group email of which I'm now a part, not that I'd do this particular cruise again. At least I'd know someone if I did a return trip.

By late afternoon the sun has sunk too low for tanning. I'm exhausted. The sun always does that to me. I want to shower, take a nap. Instead, I go back to the Spa. I've been on the boat long enough, and because this is an exclusive group (read...pay $200.00 to join) I've made a small circle of acquaintances. We're all on the same boat—literally--so people go out of their way to be friendlier than they might be on land. It's not likely I will ever keep in touch with any of these people, but they're pleasant at this juncture of the trip.

By 7:00 pm I'm back in the room, checking email on my iPad, laying on my bed in gym shorts and nothing else. The door opens. It's Melody, our super-friendly cabin steward. She's on her nightly round of turning down the beds.

Oh, Mr. Daniel. You're sleeping.”

No, I tell her. Just resting.”

I scramble to put on a shirt.

Each night she makes us a towel animal. She's very creative, and a good story teller. When we're in the room she weaves a tale as she winds the towel. Our stateroom is full of elephants, dogs, crabs and lobsters. Glenda saves them all. By Day 10 we're running out of room in the towel-animal museum.

Tonight's animal comes with a profound story.

In 2003 she was a steward on another ship when another crew member, a young Romanian woman, was afraid to return home because she was pregnant. One evening she just disappeared, but there are cameras all over the boat and a quick review indicated she'd jumped overboard. A very good form of suicide.

Melody contorts the towel, while she continues with the story.

The boat turns around. Hours pass, and just as the ship is about to give up, she's seen floating unconsciously on something.

By the now the animal has taken form. When Melody adds a head, she concludes by telling us that a giant sea turtle had rescued the woman.

I wonder two things. Is the story true, or by what Divine intervention did all this occur. What made this animal know to save this desperate woman? Or...had Melody divined a great story to tell while she made her nightly animals?

By now it's time for dinner. We usually eat late. Glenda and I have always gone in different directions on cruises, but we always join up for dinner. There is always too much food, and too many choices.

Each evening we have been dining with friends that Glenda made—Peachy from Tennessee and Florida and Lynn of Bristol, England. Peachy's fun. She's not afraid to tell a ribald joke and, as time's gone on, she and I banter back and forth is a fun, silly way.

There is absolutely nothing on the menu that looks appealing. It's been that way for days. I'm longing for simple food. Peachy and I often order together. Always a steak and something else, which we share. We still leave a pile of food behind.

I've always wanted to take the classic three-month-around-the-world cruise but this cruise has convinced me that 105 days would be overkill and that it would grow old very fast.

By 9:45 pm I'm tuckered out. I sit on the balcony looking out at the sea. An almost full moon shimmers off the surface.

All day it's been cloudy and grey, but by evening the sky has cleared. The air is very heavy. We're well within the Caribbean heading south west. Night clouds scurry by.

I turn to the gathering darkness and whisper deep thanks. I know I live in a privileged space and what I have is not lost to me.

Thank you,” I whisper. “Thank you.”

Day 11 – November 5th
St. Maarten, Netherland Antilles
18° 72' N

We're on one island but in two countries.”

We have two governments, two capitals, two currencies and two sets of license plates.”

We have a mosque and 192 nationalities living on 37 square miles.”

We had finally crossed the Atlantic and on this early November morning found ourselves in the Western Caribbean on the Dutch/French island of St. Maarten, 3,775 nautical miles from Barcelona.

Five cruise ships were in port this morning. People streamed out of boats and off the three piers. Frankly, I was astounded that there were vans and taxis still available to bring tourists around the island.

By 9:30 we'd found a slot on a tourist van and were on our way.

At best, it's a cheesy tour. The island was too densely populated. Cars jammed the roads. We stop two times for photos ops. I'd been to this part of the Caribbean before. St. Kitts and Antigua, neighboring islands, offered wide open spaces and sweeping island vistas.

But not St. Maarten. It seemed, at least to me, a mass of poor, over-crowded homes, complete with astronomically expensive gated communities and luxury hotels. I wasn't getting a good first impression.

Once on the French side, all English disappeared and French took over. Prices were marked in Euros and license plates showed the ten star circle of the EU. I wondered how a relatively small island could be divided into two with Paris dictating policy on one side and Rotterdam determining policy on the other. It was all very curious.

Frankly, though, the whole tour was a bit boring, so I got off at the last stope—Orient Beach—staked out a place on the sand and stayed until the sun got too hot. I was a sandy mess when I left to go shopping in town. I was in quest of Dutch goodies—stroopwaffel, Dutch cheese and good licorice.

But even the shopping was disappointing. I was back on the boat early. St. Maarten had made no good impression on me and I could not imagine vacationing in such an over-crowded island.

Or perhaps I just missed the security of the ship. We'd been comfortably cocooned on the Epic for more than a week and maybe the island was just too hectic after the relaxed life I'd come to know.

That night I begged off dinner. I simply could not be bothered to dress or even put on shoes, nor could I endure another another evening of rich food. I didn't even want to talk with anyone.

Instead, I slogged my way to the Garden Cafe—gym shorts, tee shirts and sands—sandals and ate alone.

It was wonderful.

I ate, didn't talk to anyone, moved once because I was too close to a table with children, found myself a quiet corner and wrote for three hours. By the time I left there was only a large handful of people in the restaurant.

It was a perfect way to end the day.

Day 15 – November 9th
Miami, Florida
Latitude 25° 73' N

All journeys come to an end. It just seemed we'd unpacked when it was time to pack up.

Early in the morning the sky was overcast and with occasional patches of blue. It had been this way the day before, but by early afternoon the skies cleared. And that is what happened today. Blue emerged into a glorious last day at sea. There was nothing I wanted to do except lay on a lounge chair and catch every last ray of Bahamian sun.

As the day progressed we were more and more reintroduced to civilization. Contrails of jets streaked the sky. A large cruise ship followed us from Saint Thomas. A few, smaller, pleasure craft plied the water. At one point I could see low-lying Bahamian islands. Miami and the end of the cruise were just hours away.

Both Glenda and I had slept fitfully that last night. I dreamt of the Epic sailing down Florida canals, past people's homes. At one point I dreamt my bedspread was made of mushrooms.

That morning I woke early, opened the drapes and found we'd arrived in the Port of Miami.

We had but a few hours—a last breakfast on the balcony, a final look around the room, and then we were off. By 10:00 am both of us had gone our separate ways—me to the airport to wait out a later flight to Mexico City and Glenda to Fort Lauderdale where she's wait out her flight back to Plattsburgh.

The TA had come to an end, but I just had a feeling that it wouldn't be the last. Cruises are too addicting, and too much fun.

Iberia and Beyond 2: the Norwegian Epic's Itinerary to Miami

coming in mid November


Date
Port
Arrival
Departure
Oct 26, 2014
Barcelona, Spain 

17:00 
Oct 27, 2014
Relaxing Day at Sea


Oct 28, 2014
Relaxing Day at Sea


Oct 29, 2014
Funchal, Madeira 
09:00 
18:00 
Oct 30, 2014
Relaxing Day at Sea


Oct 31, 2014
Relaxing Day at Sea


Nov 1, 2014
Relaxing Day at Sea


Nov 2, 2014
Relaxing Day at Sea


Nov 3, 2014
Relaxing Day at Sea


Nov 4, 2014
Relaxing Day at Sea


Nov 5, 2014
Philipsburg, St. Maarten 
08:00 
18:00 
Nov 6, 2014
St. Thomas, American Virgin Islands 
08:00 
16:00 
Nov 7, 2014
Relaxing Day at Sea


Nov 8, 2014
Relaxing Day at Sea


Nov 9, 2014
Miami, USA 
08:00 

Iberia and Beyond 2: Photos of Spain

Seville's river

Maria Luisa Park



Cathedral of Seville

Interior of cathedral

Stadium at 1st century Roman ruin of Italika

Mezquita of Cordoba
Cordoba center at night

Interior of Mezquita

Mezquita

Mezquita

Interior of Mezquita--Cordoba


Andalucian countryside

Granada--The Alhambra

The Alhambra

The Alhambra at night

Cathedral in Toledo

Toledo


6th Century church--Toledo

Madrid at night

Egyptian temple in Madrid
Temple at night--Madrid

19th century building--Madrid


Segovia aqueduct

Segovia

Cathedral in Sgovia


Segovian countryside

Castle in Segovia




Segovian countrside

Royal Palace in Segovia

El Retiro Park--Madrid


National Cathedral--Madrid

Las Ramblas--Barcelona

La Sagrada Familia--Barcelona